Stop Smiling so Much

The experience

In Ekaterinburg, I met a young lady who was looking to practice English and we spent a few hours wandering the city. When people walked by, they’d stare at me balefully and then shake their heads and look away.

I finally asked her, “did I grow a second head or something?!”

“No,” she said, “you’re SMILING. So they think you’re insane.”

She explained that when she was 10, her mother told her to stop smiling so much because people would think she had lost her mind. 

Though Canadians have a rep for being nice, we aren’t known for smiling as much as our USA counterparts. Interesting piece about the cultural aspects of our facial cues, and how they don’t always go over well in other countries.

Ekaterinburg, Russia

Who talks

Jodi Ettenberg (Canadian) is an award-winning writer and public speaker. She focuses on telling stories through food, and has been publishing her work since 2008. Find her at www.legalnomads.com

What do you think about it?

Find some of Olga Khazan's articles on the subject (The Atlantic) :

Why Americans Smile So Much

Extract:

"It turns out that countries with lots of immigration have historically relied more on nonverbal communication. Thus, people there might smile more." 

"After polling people from 32 countries to learn how much they felt various feelings should be expressed openly, the authors found that emotional expressiveness was correlated with diversity. In other words, when there are a lot of immigrants around, you might have to smile more to build trust and cooperation, since you don’t all speak the same language."

 

Why Some Cultures Frown on Smiling

Extracts:

"Why do some societies not encourage casual smiling? I got my answer, or at least part of one, when I stumbled across a new paper by Kuba Krys, a psychologist at the Polish Academy of Sciences. In some countries, smiling might not be a sign of warmth or even respect. It’s evidence that you’re a fool—a tricky fool.

Krys focused on a cultural phenomenon called “uncertainty avoidance.” Cultures that are low on this scale tend to have social systems—courts, health-care systems, safety nets, and so forth—that are unstable. Therefore, people there view the future as unpredictable and uncontrollable.

Smiling is a sign of certainty and confidence, so when people in those countries smile, they might seem odd. Why would you smile when fate is an invisible wolf waiting to shred you? You might, in those “low-UA” countries, even be considered stupid for smiling."

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